Wednesday, June 17, 2009

He's Not That Into You....

As a parent you have an innate desire to keep your children from any harm. Sometimes that's not possible. Yesterday my boys and I were walking into our neighborhood pool clubhouse. As we entered the pool area my son Ethan (5) saw a boy that looked like his age. Ethan is naturally very friendly and promptly introduced himself, "Hi, I'm Ethan. What's your name?". The boy rejected Ethan with equal effort, "I don't care what your name is." The look on my son's face was heart breaking. I wanted to bring that kid correction and tell him, "Hey, my son Rocks! You should care." The reality is in life this won't be the last time my son will make an effort in a relationship and not be met half way.

It's natural to be frustrated with people that aren't "trying" or "investing" as much as we are in a relationship. Nothing hurts more than affection that's not mutual on any level. In the past I use to think that if I just show that person how much I care, how much I'll sacrifice, they'll finally see what a great person I am. I put so much energy into winning people that didn't want to be won. Scripture states, that "in as much as it is with you, live at peace with all men." That means we are called to do all that we can do. Bottom Line: We can't change others, that's God's job. We're not Him.

Believe it,



  1. So, very true. If only marriage partners would learn this b4 they got married i don't think the divorce rate would be as high, or breakups...just thinking.

  2. I wonder how many times I've played Jr. Holy Spirit trying to change people. I THINK I've finally given up that title.